Literally, changes everything. Before  we had our boys, we lived for the day. My husband and i loved to go out and have a good time. He spoiled me rotten, Then.. I guess he would probably say the same thing here, i spoiled him rotten as well. Everyday was a date night, every weekend was dinner and a movie, or drive around town.  We would go shopping together,  even though he hated the long hours at the mall, but he would do it just to be with me….or should i say , to make me happy

Now we do live for our boys. We try to make decisions that will work best for them, try to find ways to make sure that they are taken care of, now and in the future. Those shopping sprees, mmh i look at it, like everything i ever wanted i got. It is all all bout the basic needs now and meeting our goals daily.

Well…I know what most of you reading this post are saying… what about  quality time , what the heck.. yeah am talking about sex…mmmh, you know what i mean. Exactly, what sex?

When Julian was born QT – quality time  was pushed to the side,  I think Julian alone wanted to remain  the only child.Most new Parents can swear to this, everytime you are about to get busy, that baby wakes up or cries so loud. I bet most men would love to ignore the babies, but not the mothers here. So yes, babies DO change everything. Then you find yourself tired  most of the time from just taking care of the baby all day, and the last thing on your mind is sex. Well it may be there, but given a choice, i chose sleep. 

So , then you  find yourself  looking at another big baby…yes, men can turn out to be big babies sometime.  Then you get to remind yourself you are both in it together and still have to make time for each other.  We have this rule, every week we make time for each other no matter what. We call it our date night. We would have dinner and a movie in at least  every Saturday or Friday night.  Sunday is usually our family time. We would either take the kids to the park, or if we stay in, we would make it up during the week. Still we would have floor time with the boys.

Sometimes i have to remind myself am still a wife, lol…I think of myself more as a mom…I mean, only another mother can understand what i mean. Honestly, you find yourself thinking about your children all day, and rarily thinking about your husband, when you do it is  when you want him to help you  with something, or want to share a joke about something the children did, or other.  So, when i do get home from work after a long day away,  and find  the children are in bed…we do sit and just chat and just catch up on things. 

What changes as well is Your relationships with your friends. Your baby could bring you and your friends closer or even further apart.  I am talking about your single friends or those without kids yet.  You can get so caught up with everything baby, that you lose touch with some of your friends or you just find that your  interests have shifted. On the other hand, you make  new friends mostly other moms in your support circle.

So you think you were such a heavy sleeper, you are so scared you will not hear your baby cry at night? Think again, that is not possible. I think it is part of how we were created. I used to sleep like a log…my family will testify to this. My husband used to come home find me sleeping, he would go take a bath, or sit on the table eat dinner, while i slept on the couch and will not hear a thing. He would have to wake me up, so i could go sleep in the bed. One time in boarding school, Moi Girls Isinya, in Kenya… There was a fire alarm in our dorm. Everyone woke up and went  outside, i slept through it all.. I woke up when they came back an hour later.. Now, all that baby has to do is just make a sound and am up. So yes, a baby does change you.

There is so much appreciation for everything really… I find that there is so much to life now.

Have a goodnight!

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