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It is easy to blame others for our mistakes rather than take own own responsibility for our actions. I know, i ask myself the same question daily…why?

Everyone wants to appear perfect, never doing any wrong.

we humans are very complicated creatures. We love drama, we crave it. Anytime something bad happens in our lives we forget about all the good in it, and just focus on the lackof. Sometimes it feels like if it ain’t one thing it is another. When we do look at it, really, if we were to take a moment and stop after inducing a drama.. there, we would probably get over it fast…but we do not do that, no no.. what fun would that be?

We start dragging everybody else in it. We start making excuses, we start wasting so much time on the deed. Then come the blame game. oh the blame game, man! At some point we truly have to own our actions, no matter how bad they are. It doesn’t really do anyone any good to start pointing fingers.

I know as you read this, it may sound familiar. Every family has some type of drama. Drama. Drama. drama.. Then poor you, you always get caught in the middle of it all and somehow you get to be the reason  why this all happened. It never fails.

If you are always at the center of a drama, and you are the  innocent party who takes the fall, take heart. There is no use in arguing with anyone really as you know yourself better. It is easier for everyone else to blame you. Why?  because you have always taken it all…You can always take it. You are the type that always rescue everyone else. You are the type that listens when one needed a shoulder to cry on. You open your doors to other when no one else would. You are ready to live without so someone else can. Making sacrifices, keeping all the secrets, and the list is endless.

Now do you see why you get blamed? Do you see why? You are the nicest person and chances are no matter what people say about you, you never break your trust. So again, it is easy to put it all on you.

See my mother is the type of person above. When anything goes wrong my mother always finds herself in the middle. It doesn’t matter whether she knew anything about the issue or not. She got blamed when my brother Dennis got in trouble, when we asked for more money, when the hired help was late, when the car broke down on her, when some drunk driver hit her…I almost left out …I blamed her for not coming to see me when i had the babies. Yes, i know. She is my mother, she can take it.

She shouldn’t take it, really, her and many others.. shouldn’t take all the blame.

When we really start breaking it down. Starting with myself…Did my mother make me have the kids? No, it was my decision…aha. Then why the heck should i blame her for not convincing my dad to let her come help me out?.. yes i said help me out, lol.

I know, i sound hopeless. So do you, for blaming everyone else for your choices.. good or bad. The point here is, let’s really look inside our souls.. inside ourselves first, before we put it all on others. When you are  at the age of knowing what is right and wrong, then you have to make informed decisions in life. If you need advice from anyone, you have to still make a decision on whether to act on it or not, and  whatever decision you make you can’t come back and blame anyone for misguiding you.

so let’s all try to recognize our actions.

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